When asked how he felt about what happened, he said: “I was sad.”

If you haven’t seen this news report yet, please click this link:


and read about the little 5-year-old boy with Asperger’s Syndrome whose kindergarten teacher humiliated him by asking his classmates to state reasons why no one liked him and then held a vote, Survivor-style, on whether or not to let him remain in the class.

I’d rant and rave about this, but, really…do I have to? Aren’t you already ranting and raving along with me? Aren’t we all screaming the same exact things in our hearts at the exact same moments?

When asked how he felt about it, he said: I was sad.

That one little statement rips me up the most somehow. His response to what happened to him is so muted, yet also healthy. He seems to have a better grasp on emotional states than his teacher, if you ask me.

The school district and its many officials and administrators are practically falling over each other to assure the general public that the situation has been handled. That the teacher has been removed from the classroom. That everything is fine. That we should all look…over…THERE…now. Pay no attention to the fuck-up behind the curtain. It’s no one’s business anyhow. And hey, that kid shouldn’t have been eating his homework anyway. Plus, let’s face it, that humming really was distracting. Oh hell. The kid probably had it coming. Besides, Survivor  ROCKS! Don’t you just love Survivor?  Totally awesome.

And I’m sure that teacher will be back in the classroom before too much time. She is tenured, after all. A little slap on the wrist. A little R&R to get a break from all those….CHILDREN…. That’s all she needs. Or maybe they’ll transfer her. She might even end up in your kid’s classroom next year. Lucky you.

As for the kid, oh well. He’ll be fine, right? Kids bounce back, right? They’re so…resilient. Right?

Uh, no.

Part of that kid has been destroyed. By one stupid, vapid teacher.

Destroyed. Forever.

Yeah…. We homeschool. Any questions?



15 Responses to “When asked how he felt about what happened, he said: “I was sad.””

  1. 1 RegularSis May 28, 2008 at 9:40 pm

    How awful. That made me sad too. In fact, some days this world just breaks my heart…again. I’m going to homeschool too, when my kids are old enough. I can’t believe people put up with this. Seems like an educational revolution is in order. Maybe they’ll change things when 50% of children are homeschooled. Certainly these homeschooled children will make some changes when they’re adults and in charge. I’m counting on it.


  2. 2 Holly May 28, 2008 at 10:52 pm

    We were talking about this at the park today, as if it can be spoken of enough. And yet, the words are useless now, coming as they do too late.

  3. 3 Katherine May 29, 2008 at 6:29 am

    What got me was the comment that his only friend was forced to participate as well. In fact, it makes me so mad I can hardly write about it. So, now bullying is part of the curriculum? Do I understand that correctly? I am speechless…

  4. 4 RegularMom May 29, 2008 at 8:09 am

    Katherine, Yes. And yes. Bullying is part of the curriculum. But even before bullying, comes conformity. The kid’s friend learned a valuable life lesson in CONFORMITY.

    And RegularSis, as usual, I remain in a constant state of “OH THANK GOD!” every time I hear you say you’re gonna homeschool. 🙂

    Speaking of homeschooling, I guess I should go educate the kids or something. 🙂

  5. 5 Maria May 29, 2008 at 10:42 am

    oh boy. what you said.

    This has me SO incredibly wound tight that it is something I can’t even think about…does that make sense? Because you know what? This happens EVERY DAY in schools. I remember teachers way back in “my day” (twenty years) siding with the popular kids against another kid….some “loser” kid. Some annoying, brilliant, talented, bright kid, who later went and had a nervous breakdown. I am still saddened by that small town school who ALLOWS such teachers in their classroom. These teachers have authority issues, why? Maybe because that is what they learned in school? And on and on and on…..and now I’ve worked myself up into a tantrum….There is NO excuse. No matter how much we like survivor. And frankly, let’s just get rid of that show as a bad example to HUMANS everywhere of how to live. Or how to voyeur.

    rant over. thanks for giving me a soapbox. It’s yours again.

  6. 6 RegularMom May 29, 2008 at 11:43 am

    Maria, I’ll share my soapbox with you any time. It’s true. This sort of thing does happen a lot. I think it’s because today’s public school teachers are mostly a product of our inadequate public education system. You get out of the system what you put into the system, and if what you put into the system is faulty to begin with (because it’s a product of the same screwy system), then what can you expect?

  7. 7 AztecQueen2000 May 29, 2008 at 2:48 pm

    Both my husband and I are products of “regular education.” My husband, who came to this country when he was 9, had to spend a month in the first grade (at age 9!) because he didn’t speak English. To this day, he still thinks he isn’t very bright. I spent most of my school years dealing with bullies. Our daughter is 18 months old, and I am planning on homeschooling her. The only people who challenge me on this are themselves schoolteachers and former schoolteachers. They shout me down, don’t let me get a word in edgewise, and refuse to listen. Even when dealing with other adults, teachers can still be bullies.

  8. 8 RegularMom May 29, 2008 at 4:20 pm

    AztecQueen, I’m so happy to hear you’ve decided to homeschool. It’s simply the best. And I’m sorry to hear about your and your husband’s experiences in regular school. Sorry, but not surprised.

    I’ve had similar experiences with school teachers when I tell them I homeschool. My favorite was this woman I knew who’d just started teaching computer graphics in a middle school. Every time I saw her during her first year of teaching, all she could do was complain about how much her teaching job sucked. How the kids were disrespectful, and dumb, and (really nice) how they SMELLED. It was draining to hear her talk about what a nightmare it was to teach middle school. And then, when I told her I was homeschooling, the first thing she said (of course!) was: “Well, that’s nice and all, but PLEASE make sure you put them in school at SOME POINT so they don’t turn out all weird.”

    I made a point of avoiding her after that. 🙂

  9. 9 Karisma May 30, 2008 at 7:48 am

    Yes, this made the news even here, I was totally shocked that an adult could do this to such a young child. Shame on her!

  10. 10 RegularMom May 30, 2008 at 9:15 am


    Wow, all the way in Australia. Good. The world should know what that woman did. Shame on her is RIGHT! 🙂

  11. 11 Urban Mom June 1, 2008 at 10:15 pm

    Can you imagine this kid’s parents? It would be all I could do to not go bitch-slap that teacher. Go ahead. Arrest me. Give this whole situation EVEN MORE PRESS. With your permission, I may even just link to this post for my next blog entry. You’ve said it all here.

    Socialization, my ass.

  12. 12 RegularMom June 2, 2008 at 10:23 am

    Urban Mom, link away. I know just how you feel. 🙂

  13. 13 Debbie June 3, 2008 at 2:36 am

    Hey, I was linked this through a yahoo group (the story, not your blog post :P), and I know exactly where you’re coming from, because I felt similar, and I actually got into a debate over homeschooling versus public school (funny thing is I was debating with mostly professional educators), that stemmed from this, but my point is, we all learned from this debate, at least I think. See, I walked into it with my bias of public school is bad, blah blah blah, and from my own experiences and everyone around me, I have a reason for that bias, but I learned that I just dealt with really bad teachers in a bad school, and so did all the other kids I know with bad public school experience. But anyway, these teachers I was debating against, they walked in with the perceived notion that homeschoolers were isolated religious freaks, well I set them straight. And somebody came in the middle of it and said that with both types of schooling there are the good and the bad examples of it, which is true.

    I think I had a point, my point was that this wasn’t because public school is horrible, this was because this is a bad teacher. I mean there are bad homeschoolers too,you know we can’t look at this really bad incident and judge all public schooling, because they can look at our really bad stories the same way. Oh yeah, and I learned that like us, the homeschoolers who hate it when we have a bad incident of representation, the teachers are just as upset over this, I mean it was horrible, the teacher that’s supposed to be protecting this little boy, has psychologically damaged him for life, an d it was *her* fault, and well most of the people I was debating with ended up calling up the school to voice a complaint of how she should be fired, like 1000s of others have.

    In conclusion, I’ve decided that public school can’t all be bad, it’s just not for everyone, the same thing with homeschooling, they’re just different teaching styles.:)

  14. 14 RegularMom June 3, 2008 at 3:16 pm

    Debbie, you bring up excellent points, all across the board. 🙂 It’s true that there are great teachers and great schools out there. I’ve seen a few great teachers in my day. Had a few of them, too. And yes, I’ve met homeschoolers who just shouldn’t be homeschooling, IMO. It’s all about perspective and choice. Having them both is always a good thing.

    I still feel bad for that kid, though. And the thousands upon thousands of other like him, who will spend their school years never quite getting one of those GREAT teachers.

  15. 15 SabrinaT June 7, 2008 at 5:15 am

    And, there you have the reason my kids will never again attend Public schools. I would end up in jail! Now what would that be teaching my kids? Just better for everyone that I home school. Hey, I am just thinking of the crappy jail food!
    I do know of some great teachers, but they seem to be few and far between these days!

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